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Inability Doesn't Make You Bad by MissLunaRose Inability Doesn't Make You Bad by MissLunaRose
[Stamp text: Sometimes you can't, and that's OK]

You don't have to be good at everything. You don't have to be able to do all of the same things your peers do. You don't need to be "on" all the time. You're allowed to have limitations, to need quiet time, to make compromises, to quit, to say "I can't."

This stamp has some personal meaning for me. I was labeled "gifted" as a child, and a desire to succeed turned into avid perfectionism. I took the hardest classes, worked constantly for the highest grades, started studying from the moment I got home and didn't stop until I had finished everything. I don't remember a lot of high school, and according to a psychologist I saw, memory loss can be a side effect from severe stress.

I did everything I was supposed to, and went to the high-reputation college I was supposed to. Then I got so sick I could have died.

I was sick and out of school for almost a year straight. During that time, I was diagnosed with autism and a lot of other things, and discovered that I have borderline moderate/severe developmental delays. No one had noticed. I was trying so hard to be the Best Possible Student and keep up with my non-disabled peers that I had nearly killed myself from hard work.

I now attend a less high-pressure school. I take fewer credit-hours than almost all of my peers. I have gotten more than one B. I've stopped pouring as much energy into looking like a non-disabled person, and sometimes I look and sound disabled. By my old standards, this would be the epitome of failure. But the thing is... I'm starting to be able to breathe and enjoy life again.

So I am here to say that it is okay if you can't do everything you wish you could do. You're allowed to say "This is painful; this is exhausting; I'm not going to keep doing this." It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay if you can't do the same things that the person next to you can do. You're allowed to prioritize and budget your energy. It's better to quit than to die trying.

I made this to remind myself as much as I made it for all of you. Having limitations doesn't make you a failure.

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LoveBeautySparkle Featured By Owner Jun 19, 2017  Professional General Artist
using! :)
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CautiontaleItalic12 Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2017  Student General Artist
I used to be like this myself. I am not disabled but i often stare at my homework for ages and get cramps and headaches. Its hard to be a scholar at my school. Expectations are high
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UsurperBobO Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2017
Sometimes it's ok but you still can't.
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2017   General Artist
Yes. :hug:
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somebodyoranybody Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Finding balance takes time. It looks like you're doing it quite well though. :) Also college is difficult and stressfull for everybody. I started in october and I have yet to meet someone who doesn't have problems getting everything organized. This idea that everyone else gets everything done is just an illusion. 
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2017   General Artist
Thank you for the kind words. :huggle: It means a lot.
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catluvvergal010 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Sending you so much love right now for this <3
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2017   General Artist
:hug:
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Mmkaay Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017   Digital Artist
I can't do it all. In only human.
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2017   General Artist
Good for you for taking care of yourself, and resisting the pressure to break yourself trying to be perfect. :hug: It takes a strong person to do that.
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Mmkaay Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017   Digital Artist
I cent do it. In only human.
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CrisisNoi Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so true and so painful...
Thank you
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2017   General Artist
:hug:
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SpringTrump Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
This is just way too inspiring. I feel you. And I get why this means something to you. It's just the same way with me. I'm never on all the time and I choose not to. Life is way more important than having your head planted in your computer screen.
It keeps you reserved, and very complicated to jump back into society again. It is very tough. I've had stress issues all because I was so caught up in trying to post artwork in the fastest span possible. Now that I've passed that phase, it is way easier to get along with my family and to stay happy together.
I love this icon to bits, and I'll make sure that whatever I do in the future, it is not related to sufferage in depression or anxiety attacks. Thank you so much for writing your story. It just made the rest of my life ten times easier.
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017   General Artist
It's good that you're spending some time for yourself. That's a really important thing to do, especially in the age of email, texting, and social network. They each have value as parts of your life, but they shouldn't consume it. Relaxation time is so undervalued.

I'm glad that you've slowed down with the artwork. It's important to take things at the speed you can. Good for you for recognizing that.

It can be really easy to fall back into the track of perfectionism and self-blame. Please feel free to keep this stamp somewhere so you can look at it in case you need a reminder.

I wish you all the best. :huggle:
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GypsyBling17 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Professional Artist
thank you for this stamp :) :) because I can't work at jobs no more & people need to understand that I can't no longer work
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017   General Artist
I understand completely. :tighthug: Not everyone is able to work.

I think I will be able to work. But I probably won't be able to cook or clean much, and I don't know if I'll ever be able to drive. It was hard for me to adjust to that realization. I am hoping that I will get some type of assisted living.
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GypsyBling17 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Professional Artist
thanks :) *hugs* + neat that's great & I understand what you're saying too. :) :) *hugs* + hopefully if I try cake baking & decorating I'll consider/count that as a job. :) :)
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017   General Artist
That sounds really nice! Being productive (even if it's not in the traditional sense) is a really good feeling, especially if you get a wonderful cake about it. I hope that you'll be able to have lots of fun with it!
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GypsyBling17 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2017  Professional Artist
Aww thanks for the support my friend *hugs* + you have my support & respect many many thanks :heart: :star:
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MissLunaRose Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2017   General Artist
:huggle:
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