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Inability Doesn't Make You Bad

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[Stamp text: Sometimes you can't, and that's OK]

You don't have to be good at everything. You don't have to be able to do all of the same things your peers do. You don't need to be "on" all the time. You're allowed to have limitations, to need quiet time, to make compromises, to quit, to say "I can't."

This stamp has some personal meaning for me. I was labeled "gifted" as a child, and a desire to succeed turned into avid perfectionism. I took the hardest classes, worked constantly for the highest grades, started studying from the moment I got home and didn't stop until I had finished everything. I don't remember a lot of high school, and according to a psychologist I saw, memory loss can be a side effect from severe stress.

I did everything I was supposed to, and went to the high-reputation college I was supposed to. Then I got so sick I could have died.

I was sick and out of school for almost a year straight. During that time, I was diagnosed with autism and a lot of other things, and discovered that I have borderline moderate/severe developmental delays. No one had noticed. I was trying so hard to be the Best Possible Student and keep up with my non-disabled peers that I had nearly killed myself from hard work.

I now attend a less high-pressure school. I take fewer credit-hours than almost all of my peers. I have gotten more than one B. I've stopped pouring as much energy into looking like a non-disabled person, and sometimes I look and sound disabled. By my old standards, this would be the epitome of failure. But the thing is... I'm starting to be able to breathe and enjoy life again.

So I am here to say that it is okay if you can't do everything you wish you could do. You're allowed to say "This is painful; this is exhausting; I'm not going to keep doing this." It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay if you can't do the same things that the person next to you can do. You're allowed to prioritize and budget your energy. It's better to quit than to die trying.

I made this to remind myself as much as I made it for all of you. Having limitations doesn't make you a failure.

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Though it IS quite understandable that each person has their own strengths and weaknesses, yet some people don't really see it, apparently insisting on indoctrinating others into tolerate/not tolerate certain things from their own point of view. Okay, look, everyone has their OWN opinions and beliefs, so as long as they respect others, then I'll respect them. Unfortunately, nowadays, people just want to keep creating debates with each other, trying to INSIST that they're right, and everyone else is WRONG.


For me, I'm not really a speechist, but I'm not very fond of profane language other than mild terms like 'damn', 'hell', and 'crap' due to childhood trauma. Yet, some people tells me to just get used to it or F off, while a few others tend to INSULT me (and maybe others like me) for not liking them. I really do try to ignore those people, but whenever they actually diss those whose opinions are different from theirs, then that just really gets on my nerves.


I'm not really insulting anyone or anything like that, but I just would like to share this with you guys.